We talked about Making time with your children last week, what about making time with your spouse?
Can I ask, if I may, how many of you actually make an effort to spend quality time with your spouse/partner every week? Yes? No?
Well, I understand that we are all very busy. We have our work, house chores and time looking after the children… so where do we have the energy to make time for our spouse/partner?
Would you agree with me if I were to say that no matter how busy you are, you will ALWAYS find time for something that is important to you?
Is this correct?
Can you relate to any incident that no matter how tired you were and no matter how time poor you were, however but because you were so passionate about it and it was so very important to you, that no matter how tired you were, you will still FIND FOUND the energy and time to accomplish it?
I am going to share an example with you., and I can assure you that spending QUALITY time with your spouse/partner does not have to be expensive or time consuming…but first, let’s start with a little story!
I remembered having lunch with 3 of my girl friends quite a few years ago, and all three of them were going through divorces at around the same time. I remember very clearly one of my friends told me the reason they were divorcing was that she and her husband literally grew apart. They advised me that it is was important to never forget about each other…. I took that advice to heart until today.
When we were in our twenties and before children, we had our own careers to pursue, great carefree interesting pursuits, a decent disposable income to do whatever we wanted, and the chance to travel whenever we wanted.
However, when our children joined the family, I took on the role of the caregiver, and my husband took off with his career. We were both walking on two different paths. However, we were mindful that we should not forget about our lives as a couple. With two children in tow and a single income with mortgages; expensive dinners were not our priority. So how did we organise some quality time together without spending big?
We made sure that we had breakfast together. We made an effort to get up earlier before the children, and we had at least 15 minutes of quiet time together. We still do that today. It does not have to be expensive dinners or outings, but, basically, you need some solid quality time together.
When the children were in high school, after their usual Saturday activities, we would drop them back for their lunch at home; then we the two of us would head out for lunch together. The children enjoyed the quiet time to themselves, and we enjoyed the adult time, including checking out local restaurants for a nice lunch together.
Remember, it does not have to be an expensive outing; you just have to enjoy the time together as a couple.
Let’s share our experiences and thoughts with fellow parents through the GoParents Facebook Page and help each other!! We all have the same 24 hours in a day to work with. It is up to us to decide how we spend that time.